“If he upsets me - I get gifts!”
In this episode, best-selling author and activist Chidera Eggerue (aka The Slumflower) joins us to discuss her transformative ideas on love, relationships, and self-worth.
Known for creating the viral #SaggyBoobsMatter movement, Chidera challenges traditional heteronormative expectations and encourages women to recognise their inherent value, demand more from their partners, and create more equal, empowering relationships.
With her provocative insights on love, money, and equality, she provides listeners with practical tools to break free from societal norms, set higher standards in their personal lives, and reclaim their power.
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00:00 Intro
00:02:13 History Of Chidera's Moniker 'Slumflower'
00:04:30 Growing Up In Peckham/'Little Lagos'
00:08:00 Chidera Cutting Her Mum Off And Ensuing Therapy
00:10:57 Chidera's Relationship With Her Father
00:13:11 Chidera's Early Romantic Relationships
00:14:31 Was Chidera Loved By Anyone In Her Childhood/Adolescence?
00:16:04 Chidera Has Never Had A Man At Her Flat
00:17:31 How Chidera's Ideology Developed Over Time
00:24:45 The Traditional Idea Of Love Is Damaging To Women
00:27:31 What Does Love Mean To Chidera?
00:29:25 Love, Feminism And Finance
00:31:04 Chidera's Thoughts On The Male Loneliness Epidemic
00:32:15 Is Chidera An Advocate For Marriage?
00:33:41 Why Does Society Struggle With Finance When It Comes To Romance?
00:41:49 Men And Self-Esteem/Ego
00:45:19 'Marriage Is The Lowest Paid Form Of Sex Work'
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00:57:06 Chidera's Definition Of Hypergamy
00:59:40 4B Movement
01:07:01 Chidera Being 'Grey A-Sexual'
01:11:29 Chidera On BDSM And Being A Dominatrix
01:16:14 How Do These Relationships Start?
01:22:17 Chidera's 'Goddess Gina' Alter Ego
01:27:46 A Letter From 'Slave Tux'
01:37:51 Critiques Of Chidera
01:41:24 Most Memorable Conversation
01:46:57 Paul's Takeaways
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