Alexandra Burke: Becoming Chaka Khan & Finding Her Purpose After Grief

What does it take to keep going when life keeps testing how badly you want the dream?

In this episode of Begin Again, Alexandra Burke joins Davina for an emotional and deeply personal conversation about X Factor, grief, motherhood, love, faith and the determination that has carried her through every chapter of her life.

Alexandra looks back on the extraordinary road to becoming a star: singing alongside her mum as a child, Stevie Wonder wanting to sign her at just 12 years old, being sent home from X Factor at 16, and the mother who eventually pushed her to go back and try again. She opens up about what was really happening in her life during that first rejection, why she now knows she wasn’t ready, and the remarkable full-circle journey that followed.

She also speaks movingly about losing her mum, the grief she still carries and how becoming a mother herself has changed the way she understands the sacrifices her own mum made. Alexandra shares why she has fiercely protected her two boys, how she met her partner Darren after years of choosing the wrong relationships, and the moment she realised the family life she has now is everything she once prayed for.

Now, playing Chaka Khan on stage in I’m Every Woman, Alexandra reveals why the most challenging role of her career is bringing parts of her own past back to the surface, why she has had to learn to leave Chaka at the theatre, and why she plans to return to therapy when the show ends.

This is a conversation about rejection, grief, resilience, faith and refusing to give up on the life you know you’re meant to have.

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(00:00) Intro

(01:20) Why “I’m Every Woman” Means So Much

(06:51) How Her Mum Inspired Her

(15:08) Alexandra’s Bond With Her Mum

(18:57) Singing With Her Mum as a Child

(20:06) Why She Turned Down Stevie Wonder

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(27:24) Monzo GBL Ad

(28:35) Leaving School at 16 for Music

(30:21) Her Abusive Relationship at 16

(31:50) Rejected by The X Factor at 16

(32:50) Coming Back to Win The X Factor

(38:15) How Chaka Khan Helped Her Heal

(39:23) Performing for Chaka Khan

(41:51) Why She Keeps Her Children Private

(48:35) How She Met Her Husband Darren

(53:58) Finding Out She Was Pregnant

(58:20) Going Back to Work After Giving Birth

(59:42) Pregnant Again Seven Months Later

(01:01:46) Pre-Eclampsia During Her Second Pregnancy

(01:03:12) Why She Wants More Children

(01:06:20) How Alexandra Found Her Confidence

(01:09:15) Honouring Her Mum Through Her Foundation

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